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Asker Anonymous Asks:
what does pstd stand for
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

ptsdconfessions:

If I was to make some powerpoint posts what topics would you guys like me to cover?

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Asker imalliroo Asks:
I'm aware that I have PTSD. I was diagnosed by at 10. I'm now 14 and have been having anxiety attacks lately, could they be linked?
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

There is definitely a high possibility they could be linked, even though your diagnosis was a few years ago. A lot of people with PTSD have anxiety attacks xx

selfcareafterrape:

When we begin to tell our histories, it is almost inevitable that we will run across someone who doesn’t believe that what happened to us is sexual trauma.

This post will both cover what to do if someone doesn’t believe you- and how to deal with the possibility of it.

Prepping to tell someone:

- If you’ve already told someone (even if it’s a therapist or someone over the internet)- it can help to talk to them again and reaffirm where you’re at.

- Write down what you want to say/rehearse what you want to say. Occasionally the disbelief isn’t intentional- it’s a ‘what’ in response to confusion and we take it as ‘oh no they don’t believe me and I should never speak up again’ versus ‘I was talking 90 miles an hour and they really had no idea what was said and are just trying to figure it out’

- Know that one person not believing you doesn’t change what happened.

- Practice setting boundaries. Know that you can walk away at any time. You do not have to sit and listen to someone invalidate you.

- Try scoping out how a specific person you want to tell will react. Find out their views on rape. Bring up cases in the news, or plots in books, or ‘a friend of a friend of a friend told me’- whatever it takes for you to feel comfortable and know ‘okay, this person doesn’t automatically assume survivors are liars.’

- Make a plan for what you will do if they say they don’t believe you. Will you try to correct them? What will you say? At what point do you walk away?

- Make a plan for what you will do after you leave the situation. Who will you go to for support? Where will you seek validation? Will you need to manage symptoms?

- Self care. Self soothe. I cannot say this enough.

During the event:

-It’s always a good idea to start out by setting boundaries if you can. Even before someone expresses their dis/belief in what you say.

-You are allowed to go ‘I want to tell you something, and if you choose not to believe me- I really don’t want to hear about it.’

-You are allowed to say, ‘I am going to tell you something, and I don’t want to answer questions about it. It’s hard enough talking about it as is.’

-You are allowed to print off articles and ask them to read it- articles that talk about why it’s harmful to ask ‘how do you know?’ or ‘well if it was really rape/abuse you would have ____’ or ‘why didn’t you _____?’

- If they start asking questions, you are allowed to cut them off and say ‘That is a really inappropriate thing to ask’

- If they start telling you that it wasn’t really trauma- you are allowed to correct them, and you are also allowed to say, ‘what you are saying is hurting me.’ 

- You are allowed to walk away completely.

After the event:

-Self care. Self soothe. Emotionally vent. Whatever you need to do.

-Talk to other survivors.

-If you have people who already know and believe you, talk to them. You are allowed to reach out to them for validation. You are allowed to say ‘someone just told me that it wasn’t really trauma will you please remind me that it is’

- Know that one person, ten people, half the world thinking that what happened to you wasn’t trauma- doesn’t mean it wasn’t. There will always be people who will argue that the grass is blue. There will be people who have hurt others, and don’t want to admit your trauma- because it means accepting that they hurt others. There will be people who will argue because they think it’s okay to debate other people’s trauma. None of this reflects on you.

- It can help to have a mantra. ‘What happened to me is valid’. ‘What happened to me is real whether or not other people recognize it as so’. ‘No one but me can define my lived experiences’. Whatever you need it to be. Have it written on a sticky note. Have it in your phone or on your mirror. 

- It can help to have a folder with articles, or validating posts. Things that remind you that there are plenty of people out here who do believe that what happened to you was trauma and that you have every right to your pain and every right to heal at your own pace.

ptsdconfessions:

If I was to make some powerpoint posts what topics would you guys like me to cover?

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hey, I have a confession. I sort of hate myself for having PTSD after long term physical and verbal abuse as a child. I feel like I am weak, that other people have had it worse and I have no right to complain. My fiancé says that I am strong, but I know I am weak. He has been through worse, (he has been shot, and seen people die) and he doesn't have nightmares every night. I just feel so pathetic. He keeps telling me that talking about it will help but it will only make it worse.
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

If you don’t feel comfortable talking about it then you shouldn’t feel pressured to do so. Talking through trauma helps some people, but not others. However, I do believe that people need an outlet, whether this is talking to friends/therapist, art, writing, going through a workbook, etc. Have a look into those if you don’t feel up to the talking about it.

If a friend came up to you, saying what you think about your trauma, would you think they are weak? Would you think that they don’t deserve help because someone else’s trauma is ‘worse’ than theirs? Everyone who has been through a trauma is strong, no matter what. And everyone responds to trauma differently. You are doing amazingly, okay? xx

Asker Anonymous Asks:
can you explain what this means? “ It is a series of coping mechanisms that are no longer helping, but hurting" It came from that post about what ptsd is.
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

I think this is referring to things such as dissociation, fight/flight (etc.). During trauma these kinds of coping mechanisms can help you through what is happening. For example, when you dissociate you feel as though you are outside your body, which means that whatever trauma you are going through doesn’t hurt as much whilst it is happening. However, these responses can start happening in day-to-day life, or when you get triggered. This is where they become unhelpful as they are withdrawing you from reality, which in turn can make you more scared and feel more alone.
I hope that explains it okay, if you’re still confused though let me know xx

If I was to make some powerpoint posts what topics would you guys like me to cover?

selfcareafterrape:

Image: A drawn woman in a blue shirt and red hair surrounded by a border that reads ‘You don’t seem traumatized. Myalgic encephalomyelitis. Why do you need therapy. You don’t look ill. You were raped? You look fine? Fibromyalgia. I get tired too’

and then with ‘Just because you can’t see my disability, or that I was raped’ above the picture and ‘does not mean I’m not Disabled or a Survivor’ written below.