PTSD Confessions

Hello! This a community to help those who suffer from or are around PTSD. If you have any questions feel free to come and talk to us. If you are submitting through the ask box, please specify this. This blog is not trigger free, so please be careful! Stay strong, we love you all! xx

believeinrecovery:

Developing a support system:

You have to be willing to ask for help. It doesn’t make you weak; it’s OK to let people give you what they can.

Be open and honest about what you need.

The benefit of a support system is that your whole network won’t be down on the same day. When you really need support, someone will be there.

Expect ups and downs over the following months, but trust that the pain will gradually lessen.

Giving support to a grieving friend:  

Be available.  

Remember that your friend is in a very different place emotionally. 

If you’re not sure what to say or do, just ask. Say, “Do you feel like talking about this right now?” If they do, be there for them.

Don’t tell them you know how they feel, unless you’ve really been there. You don’t have to know exactly what they are going through to offer support.

If they don’t want to discuss their heartache, don’t press the issue. Let them know that you are there for them regardless.

Don’t treat your friend like an invalid. Encourage him or her to get out and get busy doing day-to-day activities.

Be supportive but not smothering.

Recognize that you may need your own support system. Sometimes you can give support, and other times you’ll need to receive it. Don’t expect yourself to always be the leader.

Watch out for a shift into depression. If you see your friend withdrawing into an emotion fetal position, it’s time to intervene. 

Asker lilgypsyy Asks:
I'm losing myself and I don't know what to do. I feel myself falling back into the memories and things are getting bad again :(
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

Some ideas…

Some distractions…

I know it took me a while to reply to this, but hopefully the long answer makes up for that. I hope you are doing okay. Stay safe and strong beautiful and I promise you will make it through! xx

loveyourselfforart:

Hi all! I hope your month is going well. I feel like time is moving too quickly for me personally.

I wanted to share a video with you that my husband and I reference often.

http://elitedaily.com/life/motivation/this-video-uses-jelly-beans-show-you-how-much-youre-wasting-your-life-video/

Now we talk about our jellybeans. And say thank you to each other for making that a good jelly bean.

For today’s challenge I want you to come up with a positive affirmation. Something that will help you with your goal for the month.

(Once again - this is only a suggestions.)

I found this AWESOME spread to help us out!

Good luck.

Always, Julie

recovery-community:

Make a coping skills toolbox (I know I spelled Sudoku wrong).

mh-things:

"It’s all in your head" …and stomach and legs and mouth and bowel and….

betty-mcraes:

For those who suffer from PTSD, nightmares, flashbacks, or anxiety, I learned that having something to keep you grounded while having an “attack” is helpful. While I was in the hospital, I was told a frozen orange works. Needless to say, it does. I was having a flashback and I took the frozen orange and rolled it in my hands and passed it back and forth until I felt better. The texture of the orange and the coldness from being frozen calms you down.

A lot of people don’t know about this, so I figured I would share.

corpsazorsomething:

So, I’ve realized that I have all these great self care resources that I use for both myself and others and I think having them in one easy accessible location would be useful, although several of the links may be repeat links, SORRY

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Asker fragglechop Asks:
I feel pathetic over how I got like this, I got it when I got assaulted, on;y broke my nose and a concussion. But I still got PTSD from it, still have nightmares and flashbacks, I'm still jumpy and angry and it's been three years. My friend's (who I've had to be honest with, I'm covered in scars) are constantly using me as the subject of jokes and rants. I don't know how to function anymore.
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

If they are joking about you then they aren’t very good friends, are they? One of the most helpful things may be to simply just try and find other people to hang out with (I know this can be hard but it can’t really be worse than people making jokes about you).

There is absolutely no need to feel pathetic over your PTSD. It affects everyone differently, no one is the same. If someone you knew had been through what you’ve been through, would you think they were pathetic?

Some things you could do:

Feel free to message in again if you need any more help/details of anything xx

Asker Anonymous Asks:
I was sexually abused by two family friends in different times of my life. I never told my mother about it. I feel as though my relationship with my mother is not as close as it should be because I never told her about the abuse. I don't know how to tell her because she would start making me feel horrible by saying such things as she is a failed mother. I don't want to hurt her, but I want her to know about the abuse so she can understand me better. Please help me.
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

I would sit her down when you feel ready and explain what happened to you and then go on to say that it had nothing to do with her and that it’s not her fault. Treat it the same way you would telling a survivor of abuse that it’s not their fault. ie. you didn’t know so you couldn’t stop it etc.
You can also let her know that you would find it unhelpful for her to say those kinds of things (ie. that she failed as a mother) and ask her not to do so.

If you are looking at therapy as an option then the therapist may suggest that your mum comes in for a session (or your mum could get her own therapist because that in itself could be useful for her).

If you do decide to tell her don’t let her feelings get in the way of your recovery because it will just make you feel guilty. Remember that how she deals with it is her problem and if she doesn’t want to help you by not saying those things then that is her problem. I know it’s hard but the more you talk the easier it will be.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
could the sudden end of an important relationship be a cause of this syndrome?
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

It could be, it would just depend on what happened during the ending of the relationship, like if it turned abusive through fighting, yelling etc.