PTSD Confessions

Hello! This a community to help those who suffer from or are around PTSD. If you have any questions feel free to come and talk to us. If you are submitting through the ask box, please specify this. This blog is not trigger free, so please be careful! Stay strong, we love you all! xx
Hi, my girlfriend and I both have been through traumatic events. I've was diagnosed with PTSD but u don't believe she has. And I wanted to know if there's any sort of special ways to take care of your significant other while their having flashbacks or just having off days associated with their past.
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

Taking care of people when they are having a bad day/day off:

  • ask them if they want you to call in sick for work for them
  • treat them to a special day, you could plan it together - ie. bubble bath, picnic, movies etc.
  • if she has a therapist, see if you can book an appointment
  • keep her busy so that she doesn’t have time to think about her traumatic event
  • remind her that if she wants to talk about it, you will be willing to listen at any time
  • come up with a plan in advance of what you will do if something goes wrong, or if she gets triggered or starts having a panic attack/flashback

How to help during flashbacks:

  • go through grounding exercises with her. I find that this one helps me the most, but if you do a quick google search there are heaps of others as well
  • similarly, take her through a breathing exercise
  • remind her of the surroundings and date
  • if a particular person/event is causing the flashback help her find differences between the current situation and the trauma. eg. if a soldier is being triggered by fireworks, get them to look around and point out the differences between where they were serving and where they are now - it is snowing here but it never snowed there, we are in this city and not the other place. Not sure if that makes sense, or if that example is naive in any way, I’m so sorry if it is.
  • sometimes during flashbacks people won’t respond to voice, so maybe try making a grounding box, and include several objects which focus on each different sense (eg. lollies, incense, fluffy material etc.). When she has flashbacks, take her through the box, exploring each object.
  • Avoid sudden movements as this can startle people
  • Keep your voice calm and steady
  • Ask her (possibly beforehand) if during flashbacks she is okay to be touched/hugged. If she says it’s okay, then go ahead.

I hope this helps and I’m sorry for the long amount of time it took for me to answer xx

depressionresource:

Being dehydrated can contribute to some of the feelings that are already making life hard, like being exhausted, foggy-brained, or irritable. Try to drink enough liquids so that your day is less shitty than it could be!

  • Bring a water bottle with you. This way, you can sip consistently throughout the day, without breaking your budget.
  • Drink whatever you like best. I often feel like I should be drinking water instead of juice, and end up drinking nothing at all. Don’t feel guilty if you want to guzzle ginger ale or a smoothie instead of plain old water. Also, water can be spruced up with mint or a lemon wedge.
  • Steer away from alcohol. It will seriously dry you out, which is the main cause of hangovers. Even one glass of wine or a beer won’t help you when you’re already dehydrated.
  • Chug a glass of water in the morning. At least part of the reason that mornings are hard is because you’re dehydrated after hours and hours of sleep. Get some fluid in you ASAP to make up for it.
  • Eat fruits and veggies. This will help you a lot of ways, but it’s often ignored that plants supply you with water as well as valuable nutrients.

believeinrecovery:

I made this challenge because I really wanted to do one! However, the only ones I could find were so specific about eating disorders or self harm. So I decided to make one that is really general, so anyone in recovery can do it!

I added questions from assignments I have been given from my addiction counselor. a few questions are inspired by the 12 steps. I also generalized a few questions from other recovery challenges.

this is how it will work: once a day, please answer the question! if any are too personal or you are not comfortable answering, skip it! you can start or stop the challenge at anytime.

**if you decide to participate in the recovery challenge, please tag you answers with believeinrecovery so i can check out and/or reblog your answers! 

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Asker Anonymous Asks:
I'm sorry to bother you but i sent you a question two days ago and i was wondering if you're not answering because you're busy or tumblr ate it
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

No no I got it I’m really sorry love ahh I’ve been super busy lately and also feeling sick and I’m still trying to get around to answering questions from two weeks ago. So this goes for everyone else as well, I’m really sorry if I haven’t answered your question yet I’ll try and get to them tomorrow xx

killyouranxiety:

cuttlefishculling:

forestambassador:

Player 2 is a game about conflict and healing by Lydia Neon.

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Why Try It: Example of a game that centers “exoludic” player experience (that is, interactions which take place outside of the game’s programmed rules structure); can be a difficult but helpful experience for the player in voicing feelings around unresolved interpersonal conflict.

Time: Ten minutes.

How to Play: Use the mouse to click links and the keyboard to enter information into the text fields. At any time, you can click the “esc” link at the bottom of the screen to stop playing if you need to.

More Info: Player 2 was made for the “Your Enemies Don’t Have To Die For You To Win” #CreativeConflictJam, an event where participants created games that centered alternative modes of conflict resolution. It was created in Twinea free tool for creating hypertexts, interactive stories, and text-based games.

You can find Lydia Neon at her website or on Twitter.

this is literally amazing and incredible, and anyone who’s ever had problems articulating their negative feelings or expressing them or if you need validation or even if you just have an extra 10 minutes you NEED to play this

this is absolutely wonderful, but it’s important to note that the purpose of this is to help you work through things - that means it’s going to dredge up some unpleasant feelings. i’d recommend playing it alone or with someone who can help you if it gets to be too much. 

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depressionresource:

  • Understand that this is going to be a big life change. Even if it’s positive and you make lots of new friends and have a great time, it will still cause you stress, which can still trigger depression. Prepare for it just in case.
  • Register with disability services. If you have a diagnosis, find out what resources are available to you on campus. Even if they don’t sound like something you need (like a note-taker, alternate testing locations, etc), they may be useful later.
  • Think about living arrangements. Living with a stranger can be stressful, especially if you have a social anxiety problem, so if you think it would make you feel more comfortable look into solo living arrangements.
  • Get a therapist in the area. Even if you have a really good therapist at home, you will probably need someone to coach you through your first semester, and if you establish a good relationship you can continue to see them throughout your time at school.
  • Consider starting out with a lesser course load. Even if you would like to be a full-time student, there are options. You can always take more credits next semester!
  • Find a schedule that works for you. Studies show that people with depression have altered Circadian rhythms, meaning it may be much harder for you to make it to your 9AM class than it would be for other people. Or maybe you are exhausted by 3PM and would sleep through an evening class. Anticipate this, and try to plan your schedule so poor attendance won’t damage your grade.
  • Identify concrete things you can do to improve your mood. Campus will feel very different from home, and if you are used to petting your dogs to calm down, you are going to be out of luck. Instead, make a physical list of easy things to do when you are upset (like listening to music) that can be done in a variety of settings.
  • Keep in touch with your old friends, but also have a specific person to contact for help. It may take a while to make friends, and you may (understandably) feel really low in the meantime, so ask a family member or an old friend if they will be your go-to when you are upset. Give them some helpful hints about what to say when you call, like maybe your list from the last bullet point, or reminders to breathe deeply and slowly when you have a panic attack. 
  • Join clubs. This is by far the best way to make friends and stay active. Nothing will make you depressed faster than sitting alone in your room.
  • Don’t feel pressured to drink. While there is nothing inherently wrong with drinking in moderation and responsibly, for many college students it becomes their only social activity, and that is NOT healthy. It can also contribute to impulsive behavior, which can lead to self-harm urges and severely unpleasant regret. Also, never let anyone pressure you into drinking more than you want to. Of course, all this advice flies out the window if alcohol would interfere with any medication you might be on. Then you should really be listening to your doctor and not me.
  • Watch your diet. I am NOT saying to count calories, because I don’t believe in that at all. However, you have to think about what kind of “gas” you’re putting in your “tank,” and Cheetos and Mountain Dew are not quality fuel. Instead, try to get a variety of food groups in the dining hall, or get a mini-fridge for ingredients and cook for yourself in the dorms. If you find yourself hungry between meals, smuggle nutritious snacks from the dining hall instead of buying chips from vending machines.
  • Exercise. You may get quite a bit of exercise just walking between classes, but going to the gym is a good way to make friends. Most campus have fun classes like yoga and zumba that are open to everybody.
  • If you start struggling, talk to your professors. Speaking with them after class or sending a simple e-mail that says “I really didn’t understand this assignment” will usually prompt them to show you a host of resources, like tutors, teaching assistants, online help, ad infinitum. Also, you should never feel obligated to disclose to your professors, but I had one tell me that if he had known about my depression, he would have excused all the absences that caused me to fail the class. Be alert and catch these problems early and you will have a lot less trouble.
  • Don’t take this the wrong way, because you are an adult (no matter how scary that sounds!) but going from having your parents around constantly to having no one to look after you can be a really big change. Even if you love the new-found freedom, it can be hard to learn to regulate eating times, study habits, and sleep without your parents breathing down your neck. You should definitely be having fun, but try to stick to a schedule. For example, try doing your homework between classes so you can socialize in the evening. Dedicate Sundays to homework entirely, but do whatever you want Saturday.
  • Take extra care of yourself before and during finals. Finals can be a really stressful time for everybody, but you have to be proactive and start doing things a few weeks before they’re actually due. Never force yourself to pull an all-nighter, but also don’t forego social interaction or food. And no matter how busy you are, take some time for self-care. Leave yourself room to feel accomplished and not just plain old stressed.
  • Take these same precautions when you go home for the first time. While you’re in college, you will be super busy doing the work and adjusting to your new life, but once you come home and see that life in your hometown has gone on without you, you might feel saddened or hurt. I know this happened to me. So please, once the semester has wound down and you are back at home, continue to be kind to yourself and careful with your mental health.

Good luck, and if you have any more questions, you can always ask!

believeinrecovery:

Developing a support system:

You have to be willing to ask for help. It doesn’t make you weak; it’s OK to let people give you what they can.

Be open and honest about what you need.

The benefit of a support system is that your whole network won’t be down on the same day. When you really need support, someone will be there.

Expect ups and downs over the following months, but trust that the pain will gradually lessen.

Giving support to a grieving friend:  

Be available.  

Remember that your friend is in a very different place emotionally. 

If you’re not sure what to say or do, just ask. Say, “Do you feel like talking about this right now?” If they do, be there for them.

Don’t tell them you know how they feel, unless you’ve really been there. You don’t have to know exactly what they are going through to offer support.

If they don’t want to discuss their heartache, don’t press the issue. Let them know that you are there for them regardless.

Don’t treat your friend like an invalid. Encourage him or her to get out and get busy doing day-to-day activities.

Be supportive but not smothering.

Recognize that you may need your own support system. Sometimes you can give support, and other times you’ll need to receive it. Don’t expect yourself to always be the leader.

Watch out for a shift into depression. If you see your friend withdrawing into an emotion fetal position, it’s time to intervene. 

Asker lilgypsyy Asks:
I'm losing myself and I don't know what to do. I feel myself falling back into the memories and things are getting bad again :(
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

Some ideas…

Some distractions…

I know it took me a while to reply to this, but hopefully the long answer makes up for that. I hope you are doing okay. Stay safe and strong beautiful and I promise you will make it through! xx

loveyourselfforart:

Hi all! I hope your month is going well. I feel like time is moving too quickly for me personally.

I wanted to share a video with you that my husband and I reference often.

http://elitedaily.com/life/motivation/this-video-uses-jelly-beans-show-you-how-much-youre-wasting-your-life-video/

Now we talk about our jellybeans. And say thank you to each other for making that a good jelly bean.

For today’s challenge I want you to come up with a positive affirmation. Something that will help you with your goal for the month.

(Once again - this is only a suggestions.)

I found this AWESOME spread to help us out!

Good luck.

Always, Julie

recovery-community:

Make a coping skills toolbox (I know I spelled Sudoku wrong).