PTSD Confessions

Hello! This a community to help those who suffer from or are around PTSD. If you have any questions feel free to come and talk to us. If you are submitting through the ask box, please specify this.
This blog is not trigger free, so please be careful!
Stay strong, we love you all! xx
Asker Anonymous Asks:
What are the signs of emotional abuse?
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

mental-health-advice:

Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.

Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.

Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.

Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.

Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.

Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,

Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.

Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.

Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.

Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.

Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.

Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.

Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.

Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.

Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.

Love, Salem

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hi, so I have a problem. I've been looking into getting a weighted blanket (for when I have flashbacks and need grounding) but my skin is very sensitive. I can't find any that are faux fur or that kind if soft texture. If you have any ideas please let me know!
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

Cozy Calm - they say that they can send you a fabric sample if you want
Weightedblanket.net - have information on their fabrics and I’m pretty sure they have soft blanket material
Sensory Goods

National Autism Resources - the ones linked are fur but you might need to look into it a little more because I think these are just covers to go over another weighted blanket (which is another idea you may want to consider

How to make a weighted blanket - you would have to buy the materials yourself, but it would probably end up being cheaper
Another tutorial

Good luck with finding one you like lovely xx

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hi! What are the posable treatments for PTSD? And would they differ drastically because of the cause?
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
This involves gradually exposing yourself to thoughts and feelings related to the trauma. It also involves identifying distorted thoughts and replacing them with more balanced ones.
Kati Morton Video

EMDR
General Overview
This is probably the most informative
Can you benefit from EMDR?
Wikipedia

Dialectial Behaviour Therapy
DBT for managing PTSD
Kati Morton Video
How DBT can help trauma victims

Medication
There are several types of medication you can use, although I think antidepressants are most commonly used. If you are considering medication you should talk to a doctor about it as they can give their opinion and prescribe it to you.

To my knowledge the type of treatment doesn’t differ much because of the cause.

selfcareafterrape:

Survivors Speak Out is looking for submissions!

What is Survivors Speak Out? 

Survivors Speak Out is a month long event highlighting voices often not heard within the survivor community. The aim is to make a platform for people to get their voices heard and also to help other marginalized survivors to realize that they are not alone.

What is required to submit?

All submissions must come from marginalized survivors of sexual trauma. 

What does it mean to be a marginalized survivor?

While I couldn’t possibly list all the ways that one could be marginalized, I can name a few.

Survivors of Color, Disabled Survivors, Trans Survivors, Spectrum (Mogii, LGBTPQIA+, whatever your preferred word for the community is) Survivors, Male Survivors, Survivors whose assailants were women, Survivors whose assailants were other children.

and all the lovely intersections and varying identities that come along with it. This is not a checklist or a competition of ‘whose more marginalized’, as long as you fall in a marginalized community SSO will take your submission. 

Can I submit if I’m a non-marginalized Survivor? or if I’m a survivor of non-sexual trauma?

No. This event is specifically for Survivors of Sexual Trauma from marginalized communities.

While SCaR is an open place for all survivors- this particular event is not.

Why marginalized survivors of sexual trauma?

Because these voices are often ignored in favor of experiences that fit a more common narrative. In being ignored thousands of survivors are left feeling confused or like they are the only ones. While all survivors are valid, there are certain issues that some communities of survivors face more than others, as well as some completely unique struggles. Survivor Speaks Out hopes to help address some of the problems that these survivors face.

Who runs Survivors Speak Out?

While SCaR is now home to many mods of many different walks of life, SSO is run by SCaR’s founder Kris.

They are a 21 year old white non-cis disabled queer. 

What kind of Submissions is SSO taking?

This year SSO is taking submissions for these 6  categories:

1. Letter to yourself during the crisis period.

2. Letter to survivors in your marginalized community.

3. Letter to survivors who aren’t in your community. What do you wish we understood? How can we build a better support system for each other?

4. Letters to non-survivors. What do you think they need to know? Maybe you want to write it to a specific non-survivor in your life, maybe you want to write it in general, or to the ones at your school. 

5. Art. Poetry. Drawings. Pictures. Sculptures. Music. Videos. 

6. For the last option- I would like to interview some survivors who have done things in their communities. Maybe you volunteer at a shelter or for RAINN. Maybe you helped put on a domestic violence event at your college. Maybe you fundraised for the cause. Maybe you spoke at Take Back the Night.

When is SSO taking place?

The month of September this year!

When is SSO accepting submissions? How do I submit? Can I do so anonymously?

SSO will begin accepting submissions next week- starting on July 7th. It will continue to accept submissions for the rest of the month of July and for most of August.

All submissions must be in by August 25th.

You can submit either by Submitting to selfcareafterrape or by emailing selfcareafterrape@gmail.com. If you plan on submitting it straight to SCaR make sure you touch base with Kris first.

If you want it to be anonymous- that can be arranged.

Further Questions?

Can be sent to ssoquestions.tumblr.com. Any questions sent to SCaR itself will be deleted unanswered. This is to keep SCaR’s inbox from becoming flooded. The actual SSO will still take place on the main blog.

(via selfcareafterrape)

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Do you have any information about on how child sexual abuse can affect sexuality? Just like different ways things can get mixed up later
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

Here is a study that was done (only about females) in 1999. I cant really find any other relevant resources, so I’ll just give you my opinion. I would say that it would have an impact in the way that if you were a girl abused by a man then later in life you might tend to shy away from intimacy with men and not have an interest in them. Does that make sense? If anyone else has any thoughts/information on this feel free to message in xx

Asker Anonymous Asks:
How many American soldiers suffer from PTSD?
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

Different websites claim different things… 1 in 3, 1 in 5, 1 in 8. Go with whichever one you consider to be the best source.

selfcareafterrape:

In honor of that: Major trigger warnings for sexual assault/rape for all of these.

But I think.. poetry and knowing that other people experience these things too allows us to connect. It can help inspire us to write our own pieces. Poetry can help us process. But only listen if you’re going to be okay doing so and make sure to take care of yourself.

Blue Blanket by Andrea Gibson

One Color by Neil Hilborn and Ollie Schminkey 

Black and Blue by Jasmine Mans and Alysia Harris

Communion by Jeanann Verlee

And/Or by Jeanann Verlee

Paperdolls by Sierra Demulder

Unsolicited Advice (after Jeanann Verlee) by Tony Ingram

An Open Letter from Harley Quinn to the Joker by Lauren Bullock

A Survivor’s Guide to saying Yes by Anna Binkovitz

Trellis by Andrea Gibson

On Admitting You are an Abuse Survivor by Sierra Demulder

and this poem has nothing to do with the topic- but it’s the poem that I listen to to make myself feel better. so I’m sharing it here with you. It isn’t a particularly inspirational poem and I can’t tell you why it makes me feel better- but it does.

For those who can still ride in Airplanes by Anis Mojani

(via selfcareafterrape)

onlinecounsellingcollege:

There is a difference between blaming and shaming a person. Blaming is being told you did something wrong. Shaming is being told that there’s something wrong with you, and you’re worthless, bad, inferior or inadequate. Examples of shaming statements include:

· “You were a mistake; I wish I’d never had you”

· “You’re useless; you’ll never amount to anything.”

· “You could never do what he/she does”

· “You’ve ruined my life; you ruin everything for everyone”

Adults shamed in childhood have the following traits:

1. They are afraid to share their true thoughts and feelings with others.

2. They are terrified of intimacy and put up walls in relationships. They also fear commitment as they expect to be rejected.

3. They are often extremely shy, easily embarrassed, and are terrified of being shamed or humiliated. They tend to suffer from debilitating false guilt.

4. They struggle with feelings of worthlessness and believe they are inferior to others. They believe that is something they can never change as worthlessness is at the core of who they are.

5. They often feel ugly and flawed, even when they’re beautiful – and everyone tells them that.

6. They may be narcissistic and act as if they have it all together; alternatively, they may be completely selfless, almost to the point of being a doormat.

7. They are often very defensive and find it hard to bear the slightest criticism. They feel as if they are being constantly watched and judged.

8. They have a pervasive sense of loneliness and always feel like outsiders (even when others genuinely like and love them).

9. They feel controlled – as if they always have to do want others want and say – and this blocks spontaneity.

10. They are perfectionists and usually suffer from performance anxiety. This may also cause them to be procrastinators.

11. They tend to block their feelings through compulsive behaviors like eating disorders, retail therapy or substance-abuse.

12. They find it hard to establish and enforce healthy boundaries with others.

I get nightmares and flashbacks a lot. Im terrified that my mom and my sister will walk back into my life, though logically I know that wont happen. I sometimes hear them in the house, when they arent there. Help?
ptsdconfessions ptsdconfessions Said:

When you start feeling scared there are a few things you could do…

  • Call someone. Whether or not they are aware of your situation this can help to ground you and calm your body down.
  • Start meditation and do mindfulness exercises (each word is a different link). Use these techniques & exercises regularly, then when you feel scared you will eventually start using them automatically.
  • Make a grounding box 

Try to start seeing a therapist/counsellor as they will be able to talk through the specifics of your situation. You could also come up with a plan of what to do if they do come back into your life… eg. Go to a neighbour’s house/busy street and call the police.. etc.. Knowing what you can do in the situation you are scared about can sometimes make it seem less scary.
Remember that you are going to be okay, and we are always here if you need someone to talk to xx